Have you ever thought you would like to be somebody else’s shoes?
“She is size 10 and has a lovely figure. She is like a model”
She has experienced babyloss.
“She has a really good career”
She cried when she had to miss her daughter’s nativity play.
“She gets to stay at home and do her own thing”
She is experiencing post-natal depression
“She went to a good university”
She worries she never lived up to early expectations.
“She is well respected at work”
She is in constant pain.
“She has healthy children”
She struggles to make ends meet
“She has huge talent”
She is fighting for a fair deal for her children with special needs.
“She has 8 children”
She only sees 4 of them
“She has a fabulous degree”
She was abused as a child and self-harms
They say you can only truly understand a person by walking a mile in their shoes. It strikes me that people’s shoes are sometimes very comfy and sometimes they pinch a lot. Sometimes they do lasting damage.
Remember, unless the person takes of their shoes and trusts you, you can never know what lies underneath. So if you wish yourself into somebody else’s shoes, be careful what you wish for. Whilst you and I are at it, let’s stop judging those whose shoes are different from ours. This particularly applies to all those battles between yummy and slummy mummies, those who work and those who don’t and so on.
Interestingly, the great spiritual leaders tend not to wear shoes at all or to wear sandals that show their feet. What does that tell us?